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'It's Not That Bad' is the Wrong Thing to Say
to Someone Who is Depressed or Suicidal

'It's Not That Bad' is the Wrong Thing to Say
to Someone Who is Depressed or Suicidal

by Kevin Caruso

People who are suicidal almost always have a mental illness, such as depression.

And untreated depression is the number one cause for suicide.

When people have depression, they have a chemical imbalance in their brain and cannot think straight. Also, depression can cause excruciating, almost unbearable, emotional pain. So telling people that "it's not that bad" when they are depressed or suicidal is not only incorrect and insensitive, but also quite hurtful.

Every person is different - with a different genetic structure and different life experiences -- and thus everyone reacts to things in a different way. You cannot expect people to react to events the way that you do.

Also, some people are genetically predisposed to depression, and thus may become depressed for no apparent reason. Telling them "it's not that bad" does not make sense to them, because it feels that bad.

When people are depressed or suicidal, they do not need to hear anything that is judgmental, including "it's not that bad," yet this statement is used quite frequently.

Listen to what the person has to say, be supportive and caring, and try to get the person help.

People who are depressed or suicidal are extremely sensitive, so always be careful what you say to them.

Never tell them "it's not that bad."

If you or someone you know is suicidal, please go to the Home Page of this website for immediate help.

Thank you.

I love you.

Take care,

Kevin Caruso

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