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Suicide Survivors: The First Year is the Toughest

Suicide Survivors: The First Year is the Toughest

by Kevin Caruso

Suicide is extremely painful. Period.

And the initial shock of hearing the news or finding the body is overwhelming.

And then comes the “first” of everything. The first person you tell about the suicide. The first birthday of your loved one without him or her being there. The first anniversary of the suicide.

There will be a lot of “firsts,” and they will almost all come in the first year.

The first year is the toughest because of that. The suicide is still recent and the “firsts” go by one after the other. And they are all painful.

Hold on, my friend. Things WILL get better. No, there is no panacea somewhere on the tortuous road ahead, but there is HEALING.

And although healing can be a slow process, it is a process that is occurring right now, with every tick of the clock – it DOES happen.

The pain will always be there, and that is because you LOVE and MISS your loved one. But the pain will ameliorate significantly.

And by the second year, you are no longer on the “firsts.” So these “seconds” will be a little easier.

There is hope. There is love. There is healing.

Time does not heal all wounds, but time does help.

And your healing process is well undersay.

So, give it time, my friend. And reach out for help whenever you need it.

I love you,

Kevin Caruso

If you or someone you know is suicidal, please go to the Home Page of this website for immediate help.

Thank you.

I love you.

Take care,

Kevin Caruso

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